Chicken-Heads, Steady Pecking!!

"Bald-head, scallywag, ain't got no hair in the back..." , well its not actually that bad, but I have decided to direct my current ire at these women who preface their feelings for a guy based on his earning potential, or at least how much he's willing to spend on her. What in the world is wrong with these women? Since when is the amount of love and affection your significant other has for you, prefaced upon how much money he spends every time that he goes out. What happened to the days when sweet gestures were appreciated for what they were, sweet gestures? Instead I've started coming across a vast majority of women who have this chicken-head frame of mind.

My boys and I talk often about our relationship state of affairs, and as I was catching up with one, I gathered that he was rather perturbed and upset about a recent turn of events. He's a student like me, and totally into his girlfriend. At the same time though, he's a student, and since "money doesn't grow on trees", he can't go all out in terms of monetary gratification. In short, he has to mostly rely on "cute things"; but arguably, the most pure in intent things, to get his point across. Now his girlfriend, who I absolutely adore, isn't the chicken-head(s) in question. Its more so the chicken-head friends who constantly belittle his actions as insufficient because they tend to be "free".

Taking your girl on a trip to the park or the museum, to me is just romantic. Sure its free, but the experience of in-depth conversation, intellectual enlightenment, and just general personal enjoyment, is priceless. Sure I can go broke and take you to Benihana, Fogo de Chao, or a Sushi Samba, but after the stomach ache is gone and the food passes through your system, ask yourself what's left...other than a bad smell. Instead, my friend is rated by the cost of the outing. If he spends $20, he's doing "ok" but at the same time, he's not spending enough. And Lord forbid he does something that's "free", he's then considered ALL TYPES of trash. However, he's simply doing the best he can, and thinking of creative ways to let his girl know that he cares. Now his lady doesn't feel this way, she honestly accepts it for what it is, and he appreciates that. But we all know that over time, good friends can sometimes influence our perception of things and we can start to question the situation for ourselves. I just wouldn't want something crazy like that to happen.

There's actually one of our fellow bloggers who I joke with all the time because she'll tell you in a second "if [he] ain't about no money, he ain't about me neither". Now granted, she's doing very well for herself, and I can understand her not wanting to deal with a McDonald's drive thru worker. However, he might have a college degree and be a social worker, and can't afford Pappadeaux's on the regular. She'll tell you straight up that he has nothing to offer her. I don't think that should rule him out of contention when he could still love her unconditionally and treat her like the woman she is.

So women, I keep hearing that you want a good man, and that's fine, there are plenty of us that want to be that for you. At the same time, stop expecting us to go into the poor house. One day many of us will be able to shower you with the gifts and adulations that you rightfully deserve, and some....well they will just be broke forever, yet have a good spirit. But, let us build up to that. If I give you the sun on our first date, how does it look on our wedding date if I'm promising to give you the world?